Tuesday, September 17, 2002
In the city it is hard to make friends for a number of reasons. The first of those reasons is the fact that everyone is always on their way somewhere and there is no where to stop on the way between point A and point B. The only way to meet people is through work, church or bars. And since I work at the church and there are only two of us that leaves me pretty screwed. The second reason is my problem because I am used to having many friends like me. Most of my friends in the past have been similar in their upbringing. Middle class, caucasian men and women from small places. Here in New York no one is like you so it is harder for me to make friends because I am not sure what I have in common with most people. I went to a campus ministry meeting at Pace University and there was only one other caucasian person in the meeting. For the first time in my life, everywhere I go, I am the minority. I have never felt like a minority before so this is a new and eye opening experience for me. It is hard to be the minority and it seems harder to make friends but that may just be an illusion. I have never not had someone I could go to a concert with or to a movie with before this point. I have had to do many things myself which has stretched and challenged me. It would be nice to have a few friends though. This is something that college does not prepare you for. In college you have friends all over the place and you don't realize it but once you get out of college there is no one, unless you live close to home but most people don't when they first get out of college. I have seen it time after time, people move and have a very hard time making friends. Is there something that the church could do to make this easier?
Posted by Dustin at 2:02 PM